Have you connected to your divine feminine? You can, even if you’re not female, because Dr. Debra Muth says the divine feminine is all about exercising the kind of power in which everybody wins. It’s not about ruffles and bows…she’s talking about the power that comes from speaking truth and asking for what you need, especially during sex.
Charleston powerhouse Jennet Robinson Alterman is a ferocious advocate for women’s empowerment. Her work in the Peace Corps fired her initial passion to help women and when she came back to live in the South, she saw some parallels in how a lack of equity has kept women from power. She talks about that and about whether we’ll see an Equal Rights Amendment passed in her lifetime.
You always hear a certain tennis shoe company urging you to “just do it.” Well, I don’t know about you, but it takes more than an ad slogan to get me moving. Come to find out, there’s a reason for that. In fact, there’s a whole science behind motivation. Susan Fowler, who teaches at the University of San Diego’s Masters of Science in Executive Leadership, discusses the science of motivation and what it has to do with your values and your image of yourself. Spoiler alert…it’s about more than saying “just do it.”
If you find yourself sucked into the online screaming, you’re not alone and, according to J. Scott Christianson, you’re getting sucked in on purpose. Christianson, who says he “was a geek before being a geek was cool,” teaches about artificial intelligence. And, while it can do a whole lot of nifty things, it also is learning our online behavior and doing anything it can to serve up controversy or whatever it takes to keep us on a page and clicking. It serves up information nuggets with the same eye toward addiction that slot machines do. We talk about the dangers of technology with J. Scott Christianson on Keep it Juicy!
Anyone in law enforcement — heck, anyone who READS about law enforcement – knows how unreliable eyewitnesses are.
Did the killer have brown eyes? Was he this tall? Was he wearing a blue jacket or a red jacket. I’m sorry, ma’am, do you wear glasses? Did you even SEE the killer?
Apparently jurors place a lot of weight on the testimony of eyewitnesses. But memory isn’t like a video recorder. As soon as something happens, we layer on all kinds of emotions and emotions like stress that warp that video we call memory.
And that’s assuming we even noticed something happening.
There’s a famous psychological experiment in which people were asked to pay attention to a video of some people passing a basketball. They focused so hard on that basketball that they failed to notice something much more startling than a basketball. A couple of times during the video, someone dressed in a gorilla suit wanders in, beats his chest, and wanders out. You would think something like that would be hard to miss. You’d be wrong. Almost half missed it.
And, even when scientists told people about the gorilla, so they were primed to know that the whole experiment was about noticing the unexpected, they saw the gorilla, all right, but they missed other unexpected things.
So, the truth is that we stumble through life fairly oblivious.
And, if we miss a gorilla, what else are we missing?
Danielle Roberts says she wishes the country offered a mandatory Medicare class for everyone when they turn 50. It’s that complicated.
If you think you can wait until you’re 65 to start thinking about Medicare, you’re wrong. And even if you’re already on it, there may be a few things you don’t know. But then, why would you? With four parts and 10 supplementals and thousands of options for prescription care…it’s good to talk to an expert. Danielle Roberts helps demystify Medicare.
You can stay connected with your partner, even if you’re not together physically. But there are a few pitfalls: not communicating about how you’re going to blend your families if this isn’t your first relationship, and falling out of intimacy. Dr. Jeannelle Perkins-Muhammad is a marriage and family therapist and she has some tips for keeping intimacy alive. She ought to know – she and her husband have been married for more than 20 years and he’s deployed to another country. She’s sharing a few tips that she’s learned.
When we think of transitions, we may think about aging, job changes, that kind of thing. But the move from everyday life to a life of quarantine – or even back out of quarantine – involves change too. Transitions expert Maria Tomas-Keegan says any kind of transition is difficult, even the good kind. But she says that during the quarantine, finding creative ways to stay in touch with those who love and support us is key. And afterward, how we frame the changes can make that transition easy or difficult.
Is there some way to find meaning, if not beauty, in our quarantine?
A New York Times journalist goes all the way back to the Holocaust for inspiration, citing what Viktor Frankl calls “tragic optimism.” Frankl, a holocaust survivor himself, describes tragic optimism as “the ability to maintain hope and find meaning in life despite its inescapable pain, loss and suffering.”
That tragic optimism wound up affecting how quickly people recovered from the shock of 9/11, whether or not they had lost someone, and it shows up in the difference between people who recover from a trauma and those who develop PTSD, post-traumatic stress disorder.
And, we have been traumatized, make no mistake about it. One licensed professional counselor, Jennifer Yaeger, has a widely-shared post on Facebook that talks about how this trauma affects us. We may become numb and shut down or we may become hyper-vigilant (scrubbing down groceries, for example). It’s hard to focus.
It’s time to be gentle on ourselves.
But it’s also time to look for meaning, while we have the time and space for this kind of reflection. Finding meaning, finding the good in this Coronavirus, is what is going to make us resilient. It’s what is going to make us bounce back when we do open back up.