Is there some way to find meaning, if not beauty, in our quarantine?
A New York Times journalist goes all the way back to the Holocaust for inspiration, citing what Viktor Frankl calls “tragic optimism.” Frankl, a holocaust survivor himself, describes tragic optimism as “the ability to maintain hope and find meaning in life despite its inescapable pain, loss and suffering.”
That tragic optimism wound up affecting how quickly people recovered from the shock of 9/11, whether or not they had lost someone, and it shows up in the difference between people who recover from a trauma and those who develop PTSD, post-traumatic stress disorder.
And, we have been traumatized, make no mistake about it. One licensed professional counselor, Jennifer Yaeger, has a widely-shared post on Facebook that talks about how this trauma affects us. We may become numb and shut down or we may become hyper-vigilant (scrubbing down groceries, for example). It’s hard to focus.
It’s time to be gentle on ourselves.
But it’s also time to look for meaning, while we have the time and space for this kind of reflection. Finding meaning, finding the good in this Coronavirus, is what is going to make us resilient. It’s what is going to make us bounce back when we do open back up.
Music can help with physical, emotional and spiritual health, says guest Bill Protzmann. Protzmann’s mission is to raise awareness of the power of music as self-care.
He holds magna cum laude degrees in piano performance and creative writing, and has led a successful IT consulting practice for more than 30 years.
In 2011, Protzmann launched Music Care Inc, a for-purpose corporation to teach and advocate for practical ways music can be used for your self-care. He was recognized by the National Council for Behavioral Health with an Award of Excellence in 2014 – the industry equivalent of winning an Oscar.
Carolyn Rivers had a successful career in publishing when she felt called to do something else.
That calling became the Sophia Institute in Charleston, SC, a place where teachers and advocates gather to connect and lead on topics of following the feminine, and transformation. In a pre-Corona conversation, Carolyn Rivers talked about how the country is in breakdown mode, but that can ultimately lead to breakthrough.
Lucille isn’t around to be the subject of this blog…she died right before she turned 104. But Lucille left a lasting impression on medical CEO Judy Gaman. Judy learned about not just living long, but living well. We might even call it living juicy. It’s all about exercise, blueberries, and remembering joy.
I turned 60 on the 29th of March. I had planned to make it a big celebration with my husband, daughter and son-in-law and a few hundred others all attending this big Great Gatsby party at a gorgeous mansion in Asheville. I had my flapper dress and fake pearls and bright red lipstick. I had also planned a bit of self-reflection. After all, it’s a big decade-changer.
Well, then the Coronavirus happened and that big, fancy celebration is postponed until fall when everyone hopes life is somewhat back to normal. My daughter is an Emergency Room nurse, so she is not going to even visit me that weekend, in fears that she’ll infect me now that I am at the advanced age of 60.
When she first mentioned this, I protested that I wasn’t in the high-risk population (this was still when they thought only old people were getting the virus).
“You will be in two weeks,” she told me flatly.
NOT how I wanted to spend my big birthday. But you know what? I got some unexpectedly sweet gifts on my birthday and they may never have happened without this quarantine.
Life mapping – don’t you wish sometimes you had a GPS for your own life?
Dana V Adams says life mapping can give you that. It’s a personal development tool that helps us become clear on who we are; what brings us joy; and offers a goal plan system structured so you can set yourself up for success. It’s a fairly intimate process – Adams says that, if someone reads your life map, they’ll get who you are as a person.
You would think that a woman who runs a couple of peaceful spas would exude peace and calm, right? Except Kim Powell, who owns the Woodhouse Day Spa and Boutique in Charleston, calls herself a “wellness fraud” because she’s always on the go and the spa isn’t even her only business. But, she says that she lives by a few key mantras as well as a big lesson from the blue heron. Kim Powell talks self-care, beef jerky and husband legs on Keep it Juicy!
Let’s talk about energy. Not the kind that you get from an energy drink, but the energy you have that links your body and your emotions. Chakras. For a lot of people, yoga is their first introduction to the whole notion of chakras. But even if you aren’t familiar with this energy that lives in parts of our bodies, you may have felt it. You may have felt your own energy, or others’ energy. How you manage that energy can affect your life and your health. And others’ energy? Well, you may want to learn how to protect yourself from energy vampires.
Have you ever noticed that some people just naturally seem better able to love?
I’m not talking about sociopaths here, just the people who don’t have a knack for love.
Is it just the way some people are wired?
There has been some interesting science about what love does to the brain. When you love, you get a rush of endorphins and the whole rush can act like an opioid and get you a little hooked. A little love makes you want a lot of love. So maybe taking that first leap is the first leap to a lifetime of love.
There was a time when Bex Bedford let her car run dry before she’d let the people at the gas pumps see her fat self. Today, Bex is a passionate advocate for the body positivity movement. You can call her fat but you’d better call her beautiful too. That doesn’t mean she says being fat is healthy. But it does mean she doesn’t need your snide comments because she loves who she is – all of her, thank you very much.