Psychotherapist and mindfulness teacher Nancy Colier talks about mindful relationships. You might think that being mindful in a relationship is just about paying attention to your mate…and it is…but it’s also about paying attention to yourself and the thoughts and emotions you bring to the partnership. Nancy talks about how to show up and how to deal with a really bad day — and how to leave yourself open for the butterflies of love.
Oh, come on, don’t lie…admit it. You lie about how often you have sex; you lie about how often you give to charity. Everybody lies. We’re talking the lies we tell others, and the lies we tell ourselves, on Keep it Juicy!
Amanda Dixon, an analyst for bankrate.com, says her company has done a study showing that we’re doing more side hustles than ever before. What’s a side hustle? We used to call it “moonlighting.” You know, that little extra job for that little extra cash. You might be surprised at why we’re side hustling these days…and what we’re doing.
So, how have you been doing on those New Year Resolutions?
Have you lost weight/exercised more/become a better person? Yeah, me neither. The difference is that I don’t do resolutions anymore. I just can’t seem to stick to them, even when I try. I know that you have to do something new for a certain amount of time and then it becomes a habit and, before you know it, you’re a new, improved version of yourself. I just can’t seem to get the old, unimproved version of myself on board.
I’m not alone. According to a psychologist in US News & World Report, 80% of resolutions fail by February.
So, I don’t do resolutions anymore.
Instead, I do rituals that mark the changing of the year. Resolutions don’t make me feel like I’m getting a fresh start, but rituals do.
We’re talking with Brad Staats. I read Brad’s book, Never Stop Learning, as part of a book club I belong to. The whole book is good, but I really was struck by his chapter on failure. Now, anyone with a podcast knows that the way is littered with failure. Guests who drone on and on, recordings that fail, sound that makes it sound like your podcast is under the sea…I’ve pretty much done everything about this podcast wrong at least once. So, when Brad wrote that failure is necessary and good? Made me feel better! I raised my daughter to be brave, and I believe in taking risks. So why does failure feel so awful if it’s a necessary part of the process?
We talk with Erik Listou from the Living in Place Institute. What’s living in place? It’s staying where you are, rather than having to go to a senior community or assisted living facility. Erik tells us that there are some relatively low-cost things you can do to your home that can keep you safely there…and it doesn’t have to look like an institution. Even if you’re not ready to think about this, your parents might be. Living in Place, with Erik Listou.
I had this image in my mind of what my voice sounded like. So I recorded myself singing. Big mistake. And it got me thinking…there are times when I don’t sound like I think I do, even when it’s communicating with others. How often do you listen to yourself? Listening to yourself, on the Keep it Juicy! podcast.
Alexis Ferraro from OurTime talks with us. OurTime.com is a dating app for people over 50. We’re used to getting books, shoes and travel arrangements through online ordering. Why not love? Well, as Alexis tells us, that book you’re ordering doesn’t have the option of not liking you back. The brave world of online dating for over 50s on Keep it Juicy!
I’m your host, Helen Mitternight. Today, we’re talking with Tamara Sims of Stanford University about some fascinating data on how Baby Boomers are navigating the social parts of getting older. Spoiler alert – we’re getting isolated, and that’s not good. Boomer aging on Keep it Juicy!