I turned 60 on the 29th of March. I had planned to make it a big celebration with my husband, daughter and son-in-law and a few hundred others all attending this big Great Gatsby party at a gorgeous mansion in Asheville. I had my flapper dress and fake pearls and bright red lipstick. I had also planned a bit of self-reflection. After all, it’s a big decade-changer.
Well, then the Coronavirus happened and that big, fancy celebration is postponed until fall when everyone hopes life is somewhat back to normal. My daughter is an Emergency Room nurse, so she is not going to even visit me that weekend, in fears that she’ll infect me now that I am at the advanced age of 60.
When she first mentioned this, I protested that I wasn’t in the high-risk population (this was still when they thought only old people were getting the virus).
“You will be in two weeks,” she told me flatly.
NOT how I wanted to spend my big birthday. But you know what? I got some unexpectedly sweet gifts on my birthday and they may never have happened without this quarantine.
Life mapping – don’t you wish sometimes you had a GPS for your own life?
Dana V Adams says life mapping can give you that. It’s a personal development tool that helps us become clear on who we are; what brings us joy; and offers a goal plan system structured so you can set yourself up for success. It’s a fairly intimate process – Adams says that, if someone reads your life map, they’ll get who you are as a person.
You would think that a woman who runs a couple of peaceful spas would exude peace and calm, right? Except Kim Powell, who owns the Woodhouse Day Spa and Boutique in Charleston, calls herself a “wellness fraud” because she’s always on the go and the spa isn’t even her only business. But, she says that she lives by a few key mantras as well as a big lesson from the blue heron. Kim Powell talks self-care, beef jerky and husband legs on Keep it Juicy!
Let’s talk about energy. Not the kind that you get from an energy drink, but the energy you have that links your body and your emotions. Chakras. For a lot of people, yoga is their first introduction to the whole notion of chakras. But even if you aren’t familiar with this energy that lives in parts of our bodies, you may have felt it. You may have felt your own energy, or others’ energy. How you manage that energy can affect your life and your health. And others’ energy? Well, you may want to learn how to protect yourself from energy vampires.
Have you ever noticed that some people just naturally seem better able to love?
I’m not talking about sociopaths here, just the people who don’t have a knack for love.
Is it just the way some people are wired?
There has been some interesting science about what love does to the brain. When you love, you get a rush of endorphins and the whole rush can act like an opioid and get you a little hooked. A little love makes you want a lot of love. So maybe taking that first leap is the first leap to a lifetime of love.
There was a time when Bex Bedford let her car run dry before she’d let the people at the gas pumps see her fat self. Today, Bex is a passionate advocate for the body positivity movement. You can call her fat but you’d better call her beautiful too. That doesn’t mean she says being fat is healthy. But it does mean she doesn’t need your snide comments because she loves who she is – all of her, thank you very much.
Oh, the glamour of being Charleston’s First Lady….maybe that’s why Sandy Tecklenberg sometimes longs to tie on her running shoes and keep running! From the dust-up of the sometimes silly Business Card-Gate to the cold shoulder the City Council gave her, Sandy let’s her hair down about life as the Mayor’s wife and about the hell of the last campaign year. She showed without an entourage and without a filter and showed us that there’s nothing juicier than a woman comfortable in her own skin.
It’s amazing that Chris Fagan has any “juicy” left at all after a 48-day trek in the South Pole with just her husband, a 220-pound sled, and her thoughts to keep her company. The solitude and reaching the breaking point taught her about life and about her marriage. The temperature got to 50 below, but Chris brings the heat with her thoughts on marriage, creativity, and having hot flashes when the weather is killing cold.
It’s good practice to apologize. Sometimes, even when you weren’t trying to be hurtful, you were just thoughtless.
It’s a good practice. But it’s hard to apologize. Or, rather, it’s hard to apologize and mean it.
The news is full of a lot of apologies, followed by, “I’m going to rehab because I realize my actions were the result of the addiction (and pick your addiction, from drugs to sex) that was ruling my life.”
Which may be true, but doesn’t make the wronged person feel any better. Oh, okay, you beat her up, but you were just drunk, okay, that explains everything. There’s no contrition ritual to make it right for the wronged person.
But lately, there’s another layer. It makes it impossible to make it right. Maybe you’ve heard of it. The cancel culture. It says that you should not do anything wrong in the first place, because you should have known. And if you do something wrong, you get canceled.
When is an apology enough? And what can people do to fix what they’ve done wrong?
We talk Cancel Culture on today’s Keep it Juicy! podcast.
Author Ingrid Fetell Lee takes a look at the things that bring us joy — round things, abundant things, and lots more — and talks about how we can create joy from the outside in. Ingrid Fetell Lee, author of “Joyful” on Keep it Juicy!