When should you schedule surgery? Or how about that important meeting? There’s science behind all of that and author Dan Pink of the best-selling WHEN talks about how you should schedule your day and how you should schedule your life — but only if you want to succeed!
Oh, come on, don’t lie…admit it. You lie about how often you have sex; you lie about how often you give to charity. Everybody lies. We’re talking the lies we tell others, and the lies we tell ourselves, on Keep it Juicy!
Amanda Dixon, an analyst for bankrate.com, says her company has done a study showing that we’re doing more side hustles than ever before. What’s a side hustle? We used to call it “moonlighting.” You know, that little extra job for that little extra cash. You might be surprised at why we’re side hustling these days…and what we’re doing.
I had this image in my mind of what my voice sounded like. So I recorded myself singing. Big mistake. And it got me thinking…there are times when I don’t sound like I think I do, even when it’s communicating with others. How often do you listen to yourself? Listening to yourself, on the Keep it Juicy! podcast.
Alexis Ferraro from OurTime talks with us. OurTime.com is a dating app for people over 50. We’re used to getting books, shoes and travel arrangements through online ordering. Why not love? Well, as Alexis tells us, that book you’re ordering doesn’t have the option of not liking you back. The brave world of online dating for over 50s on Keep it Juicy!
I’ve been through a few hurricanes and there are things that the weather channel won’t teach you. Lessons big and small that are handy to remember next time the big winds start. Things like the fact that you’re going to gain weight and you’re likely to lose your cool or maybe even your spouse, depending on how long you go without power and without your favorite electronic diversions. Hurricane lessons on Keep it Juicy!
Shoes. Whether you’re into high, strappy sandals or stomp-the-earth combat boots, women love shoes. Heck, I even named my blog, “Stilettos Not Required!” I have so many shoes that my husband expects to find me buried in my closet under a pile of wedges and platforms one day. But lately, my higher heels have been just for show. I wear comfortable shoes to drive and walk in, and then, if it’s a special occasion, I bring sexy heels to change into. I can sit in heels all day. International shoe maven Taryn Rose is all about sexy AND comfortable. She’s an orthopedic surgeon, so she knows how to keep the foot from being tortured. But she’s a fashionista and, she’s short…so high heels are her thing. Pain is not. Sexy, comfortable shoes, on Keep it Juicy.
A few weeks ago, I posed for a publication that I write for and I did it with no makeup. The magazine, Skirt, is one I write for regularly and this was their “Age Is Not An Issue” issue. So, I trusted them when they asked me to pose with no makeup. I even talked a friend into doing it with me.
Afterward, I heard lots of “how brave” comments. My friend and I were on the older end of the photo shoot spectrum. The youngest was a reality TV star who has done some modeling and the ones in between could all be models, if they aren’t already.
So maybe the comments were because I was an old broad without apology and without blush. As though I had shown not just my makeup-free face, but some more intimate part of myself.
That was not comfortable. Not the photo shoot itself, although the photographer was lovely and won my trust. And not the notion that my face was so shockingly bare that people thought I was brave to show the world what I really look like.
So, not comfortable. But it was not brave.
Here’s what’s brave:
The woman who survived a childhood as a Rwandan refugee and grew up to write the beautiful, “The Girl Who Smiled Beads.” If you haven’t read it yet, I highly recommend it.
Brave is anyone who has kicked cancer’s ass, and anyone whose ass has been kicked by cancer.
Brave is anyone who deals with depression or mental illness and is still here and still fighting.
People who have been kicked in the teeth by love but still believe that true love is out there? They are brave.
People who have been bullied or abused who figure out a way to make that violence stop before it gets its oily fingers on another generation. Those people are brave.
And if you stand up to a bully or an abuser, whether you’re the one being abused or whether you just see it happening? That’s brave.
It’s brave to take the time to talk with a homeless person, especially if you stop long enough to make eye contact.
People who figure out what it is that scares the hell out of them – could be jumping out of an airplane, could be public speaking – and goes ahead and does it. They’re brave.
Anyone who has the grace to speak honestly but kindly is brave.
All of those things are brave. But showing my face without makeup? That’s not so brave. I may look more tired than normal in that photo or older. But it’s not a brave face.
Depending on my mood, I’m likely to say that I just have big bones, or obsess about whether that freckle is melanoma. Usually these extremes come when I’m stressed out and angry that my body is demanding attention when I’m so freaking busy. Dr. Heather Bartos, talks about how nobody is the boss of our body but us…and how sometimes we abdicate that responsibility to doctors or loers or that tub of ice cream. Taking control of your weight and your health, on Keep it Juicy!