Guilt-Shaming for Charity

Let’s talk social media. Not the Russian infiltration or the zombie screen-starers it has made of all of us. I want to talk torture by my friends, wonderful people who ought to know better.

First, I have a confession to make: I didn’t get you anything for your birthday. You and I don’t have that kind of relationship.

I do celebrate the day you were born – you wouldn’t be my friend if I didn’t feel that way. But we don’t have the kind of friendship where we get each other birthday gifts.

So, why, I have to ask you, did you think I would send money to your favorite charity in lieu of the gift I was never going to get you?

If you’re like me, your social media feeds are filling up with virtue. This friend and that friend are saying that, for their birthday, they are raising money for their favorite charity. Well, bully for them.

I have my own charities. They’re meaningful to me because of the things I’m passionate about. Animals. Children. The environment. And when I am feeling charitable, I give to them. But I’m not expecting my passions to be yours. You do you.

Now, I know my friends and I love them. So, I know this all comes from a good place. But I can’t help but feel cranky about all the virtue showing up on my feed. I want to know about your life and your kids and even your job, but stop asking me for money!

In fact, I thought I had invented the phrase “charity shaming” but the urban dictionary tells me someone got there before me, so I’m apparently not the only person getting tired of the more-charitable-than-thou stuff on social media.

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Stilettos: Brand Me

I was talking with my friend, Brenda about my Keep it Juicy podcast.

“You have to brand yourself,” she told me.

Now, I know enough about branding to know that she wasn’t talking about a flaming piece of metal to my flank. She’s talking about the marketing kind of brand.

The American Marketing Association defines a brand as: “A brand is a name, term, design, symbol, or any other feature that identifies one seller’s good or service as distinct from those of other sellers”

Companies do it all the time. The Pillsbury Doughboy is the playful provider of family baked treats, and Zappos is the online provider of shopping made easy for all the shoes you could want. Or at least, that most people could want. Maybe not me, because I have a true shoe addiction. But that’s a blog for another day.

So, I guess in that sense, branding myself is setting myself apart from everybody else out there. And that’s kind of a problem.

Talk about uncomfortable! I went to school to be a journalist. This was back in the Woodward and Bernstein days, when the reporter – well, reported – the story. You stayed in the background, didn’t let your real opinion show, and just gave out the who-what-where-when-why.

That’s not me! I’m not the story! I don’t want to be a brand!

How can I maintain a consistent brand when I’m still figuring stuff out? Even at my advanced age, I’m still making it up as I go. Heck, on any given day, you don’t know how I’m going to leave the house – dressed in Earth Mother flowy clothes, or a sharply tailored dress. It all depends on my mood.

Moodiness is fine. But, what Brenda explained to me is that I’m all over the place. I have a lifestyle blog called, “Stilettos Not Required,” that lets me get really up close and personal. And I have a podcast called, “Keep it Juicy!” that lets me act as the objective interviewer. I have followers on both.

But, unless you’re my husband – or Brenda – you probably don’t know about each other.

So, this blog is an introduction.

Stilettos, Meet Juicies. Juicies, meet Stilettos.

I think you’ll like each other.

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If there’s a flood or a hurricane or a fire, you can count on finding Dave Pauli there, rescuing animals. Dave is a wildlife rescuer for The Humane Society of the United States, but he winds up rescuing lots of dogs, cats and horses too. He was in Texas during the floods and he’s been back and forth to Puerto Rico many times ever since Maria struck. I talk with Dave, and he shares stories that will warm your heart, and stories that will break your heart. If ever someone is living a juicy life, it’s this real-life hero….Dave Pauli.

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Surviving Widowhood

I was poking around on the Internet – yes, that’s something I do – when I came across this piece on the Huffington Post about surviving widowhood. I was so moved that I thought, “I have GOT to have this woman on my podcast!” Susan Good– Honey Good to you and me – talks about becoming a widow, re-engaging with life, and what she’s learned that can help others dealing with this grief. Since becoming a widow, Honey has remarried and she’s started an online community for women over 50. Her lessons about staying relevant are important for everyone, not just for the widowed.

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Sexual Health: Our Birthright

If you want to get Dr. Sandra Bevacqua riled up, just mention that we ought to just accept sexual decline as we age. Nope! If you listen to Dr. Sandy, the problem is ignorance – not only do we know know our own bodies, but even medical professionals aren’t trained in all the ways and places we can get pleasure! Dr. Sandy is passionately committed to helping women of all ages achieve the best sexual health. She joins us today to talk about pelvic health, sexual health, and how all of this can contribute to overall health.

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Welcome to Keep It Juicy!

When I got my website, KeepItJuicy.com, the web host wanted to know what the heck kind of business I was starting. I think they believed it would be a sex thing.

Well, keeping it juicy IS a sex thing — sort of. And it’s a money thing. And a health thing. And a life thing.

People who know how to keep it juicy know how to squeeze every bit of juice out of life.

Listen in on my trailer as I talk about why I’m starting this podcast and then come back to hear experts on relationships, health, money, fashion, life…and yes, sex.

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Episode 00 — Welcome to Keep It Juicy!