Great to Good

Have you renewed your drivers license lately? Well, I just did and it threw me into a sort of existential crisis. Do I need to lower my expectations to be happy? I’m going from great to good.

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Meet “Juicy” Carrie Morgridge

Meet “Juicy” Carrie Morgridge. Carrie’s a philanthropist, and she and her husband recently rode mountain bikes from one end of the Continental Divide to another. You might think it takes loads of money to be a philanthropist – Carrie married into the Cisco Systems family after all – but she didn’t always have money and she talks about how giving has always been a part of her life. I kind of wish I could bottle Carrie’s energy!

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Dan Pink on WHEN

When should you schedule surgery? Or how about that important meeting? There’s science behind all of that and author Dan Pink of the best-selling WHEN talks about how you should schedule your day and how you should schedule your life — but only if you want to succeed!

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Space in Love

It’s almost Valentine’s Day.  I read those Hallmark cards about my spouse being my other  half and I just think they get it wrong. You need to have space in relationships. It’s just a matter of figuring out how much space you need, and how much is too much.

 

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Mindful Relationships/Nancy Colier

Psychotherapist and mindfulness teacher Nancy Colier talks about mindful relationships.  You might think that being mindful in a relationship is just about paying attention to your mate…and it is…but it’s also about paying attention to yourself and the thoughts and emotions you bring to the partnership. Nancy talks about how to show up and how to deal with a really bad day — and  how to leave yourself open for the butterflies of love.

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Listening to Yourself

I had this image in my mind of what my voice sounded like. So I recorded myself singing. Big mistake. And it got me thinking…there are times when I don’t sound like I think I do, even when it’s communicating with others. How often do you listen to yourself? Listening to yourself, on the Keep it Juicy! podcast.

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Online Dating Over 50

Alexis Ferraro from OurTime talks with us. OurTime.com is a dating app for people over 50. We’re used to getting books, shoes and travel arrangements through online ordering. Why not love? Well, as Alexis tells us, that book you’re ordering doesn’t have the option of not liking you back. The brave world of online dating for over 50s on Keep it Juicy!

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Hurricane Lessons

I’ve been through a few hurricanes and there are things that the weather channel won’t teach you. Lessons big and small that are handy to remember next time the big winds start. Things like the fact that you’re going to gain weight and you’re likely to lose your cool or maybe even your spouse, depending on how long you go without power and without your favorite electronic diversions. Hurricane lessons on Keep it Juicy!

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Brave

A few weeks ago, I posed for a publication that I write for and I did it with no makeup. The magazine, Skirt, is one I write for regularly and this was their “Age Is Not An Issue” issue. So, I trusted them when they asked me to pose with no makeup. I even talked a friend into doing it with me.

Afterward, I heard lots of “how brave” comments. My friend and I were on the older end of the photo shoot spectrum. The youngest was a reality TV star who has done some modeling and the ones in between could all be models, if they aren’t already.

So maybe the comments were because I was an old broad without apology and without blush. As though I had shown not just my makeup-free face, but some more intimate part of myself.

That was not comfortable. Not the photo shoot itself, although the photographer was lovely and won my trust. And not the notion that my face was so shockingly bare that people thought I was brave to show the world what I really look like.

So, not comfortable. But it was not brave.

Here’s what’s brave:

  • The woman who survived a childhood as a Rwandan refugee and grew up to write the beautiful, “The Girl Who Smiled Beads.” If you haven’t read it yet, I highly recommend it.
  • Brave is anyone who has kicked cancer’s ass, and anyone whose ass has been kicked by cancer.
  • Brave is anyone who deals with depression or mental illness and is still here and still fighting.
  • People who have been kicked in the teeth by love but still believe that true love is out there? They are brave.
  • People who have been bullied or abused who figure out a way to make that violence stop before it gets its oily fingers on another generation. Those people are brave.
  • And if you stand up to a bully or an abuser, whether you’re the one being abused or whether you just see it happening? That’s brave.
  • It’s brave to take the time to talk with a homeless person, especially if you stop long enough to make eye contact.
  • People who figure out what it is that scares the hell out of them – could be jumping out of an airplane, could be public speaking – and goes ahead and does it. They’re brave.
  • Anyone who has the grace to speak honestly but kindly is brave.
  • All of those things are brave. But showing my face without makeup? That’s not so brave. I may look more tired than normal in that photo or older. But it’s not a brave face.

Curious…what does “brave” mean to you?

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Guilt-Shaming for Charity

Let’s talk social media. Not the Russian infiltration or the zombie screen-starers it has made of all of us. I want to talk torture by my friends, wonderful people who ought to know better.

First, I have a confession to make: I didn’t get you anything for your birthday. You and I don’t have that kind of relationship.

I do celebrate the day you were born – you wouldn’t be my friend if I didn’t feel that way. But we don’t have the kind of friendship where we get each other birthday gifts.

So, why, I have to ask you, did you think I would send money to your favorite charity in lieu of the gift I was never going to get you?

If you’re like me, your social media feeds are filling up with virtue. This friend and that friend are saying that, for their birthday, they are raising money for their favorite charity. Well, bully for them.

I have my own charities. They’re meaningful to me because of the things I’m passionate about. Animals. Children. The environment. And when I am feeling charitable, I give to them. But I’m not expecting my passions to be yours. You do you.

Now, I know my friends and I love them. So, I know this all comes from a good place. But I can’t help but feel cranky about all the virtue showing up on my feed. I want to know about your life and your kids and even your job, but stop asking me for money!

In fact, I thought I had invented the phrase “charity shaming” but the urban dictionary tells me someone got there before me, so I’m apparently not the only person getting tired of the more-charitable-than-thou stuff on social media.

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